Anxiety leads to Depression

Anxiety makes you feel like a burden. You don’t want to text your friends, even though you’re dying to hang out with them, because you’re worried they won’t want anything to do with you. You don’t want to walk over and say hello to your crush, even though you’re tempted to make a move, because you’re worried they’re going to look at you funny. You don’t even want to walk up to the cashier, even though you’re next in line, because you’re worried about bothering them.

That’s how anxiety makes you feel. Like you’re a bother. A waste of time. A nuisance.

You might get anxious because you’re worried about making a fool of yourself, because you’re scared of socializing, because you don’t want to stumble over your words or your own two feet, but when it comes down to it, the thing you’re worried about is being rejected. Being judged. Being told you aren’t good enough. Being looked at like you’re an outsider, like you don’t belong, like you’re unwanted.

Anxiety tricks you into feeling unloved. It makes you feel like you’re the one who cares more in every relationship. It makes you wonder whether all of your friends secretly hate you, even when they’ve never given you any indication of such a thing.

Whenever someone is nice to you, it feels like a trick. Whenever someone glances at you, it feels like they’re judging. Whenever you leave the house, it feels like a challenge.

Anxiety tricks you into feeling unimportant. It makes you feel like you don’t have the right to voice your opinion. Like whatever you have to say doesn’t make a difference. Like no one wants to hear it.

You think twice before you speak, because you’re worried about saying the wrong thing, but by the time you’re ready to open your mouth, the conversation has already shifted. You’ve already lost your chance to join in. You feel like you’re always missing out, like you’re always watching through a window.

Anxiety tricks you into feeling unappreciated. You feel like no one notices all of the hard work you’ve been putting into your work and your relationships. You feel like no one cares about the stress you’ve been under. All you want is a pat on the back, the tiniest bit of validation, but you never get it, so it feels like you must be doing something wrong. It feels like you must not be good enough.

Anxiety tricks you into feeling uninspired. It makes you feel like you’re never going to do anything worthwhile with your life. Like you’re never going to be considered successful. Like you’re never going to reach your dreams. If you’re not careful, it can fool you into settling, into thinking a mediocre life is enough because you don’t deserve anything more than that.

The worst part of anxiety is feeling like you’re unloved, unimportant, and unappreciated — No one is judging you as harshly as you’ve been judging yourself. No one else hates you as much as you hate your anxiety.

Now, can you honestly say you know what ANXIETY is? 

Read up on how to HELP someone overcome things YOU see are causing them anxiety. 

Anxiety usually clings hand in hand with DEPRESSION...

Dissociative Identity Disorder

Dissociative identity disorder, formerly referred to as multiple personality disorder, is characterized by a person's identity fragmenting into two or more distinct personality states. People with this condition are often victims of severe abuse.

Definition:

Dissociative identity disorder (DID) is a rare condition in which two or more distinct identities, or personality states, are present in—and alternately take control of—an individual. Some people describe this as an experience of possession. The person also experiences memory loss that is too extensive to be explained by ordinary forgetfulness.

DID was called multiple personality disorder up until 1994, when the name was changed to reflect a better understanding of the condition—namely, that it is characterized by a fragmentation or splintering of identity, rather than by a proliferation or growth of separate personalities. The symptoms of DID cannot be explained away as the direct psychological effects of a substance or of a general medical condition.

DID reflects a failure to integrate various aspects of identity, memory, and consciousness into a single multidimensional self. Usually, a primary identity carries the individual's given name and is passive, dependent, guilty, and depressed. When in control, each personality state, or alter, may be experienced as if it has a distinct history, self-image and identity. The alters' characteristics—including name, reported age and gender, vocabulary, general knowledge, and predominant mood—contrast with those of the primary identity. Certain circumstances or stressors can cause a particular alter to emerge. The various identities may deny knowledge of one another, be critical of one another, or appear to be in open conflict.

In many parts of the world, possession states are a normal part of a cultural or spiritual practice. Possession-like identities often manifest as behaviors under the control of a spirit or other supernatural being. Possession states become a disorder only when they are unwanted, cause distress or impairment, and are not accepted as part of a cultural or religious practice. 

Symptoms:

According to the DSM-5, the following criteria must be met for an individual to be diagnosed with dissociative identity disorder:

• The individual experiences two or more distinct identities or personality states (each with its own enduring pattern of perceiving, relating to, and thinking about the environment and self). Some cultures describe this as an experience of possession.
• The disruption in identity involves a change in sense of self, sense of agency, and changes in behavior, consciousness, memory, perception, cognition, and motor function.
• Frequent gaps are found in the individual’s memories of personal history, including people, places, and events, for both the distant and recent past. These recurrent gaps are not consistent with ordinary forgetting.
• The symptoms cause clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning. 

Particular identities may emerge in specific circumstances. Transitions from one identity to another are often triggered by psychosocial stress. In the possession-form of dissociative identity disorder, alternate identities are visibly obvious to people around the individual. In non-possession-form cases, most individuals do not overtly display their change in identity for long periods of time. 

People with DID may describe feeling that they have suddenly become depersonalized observers of their own speech and actions. They might report hearing voices (a child's voice or the voice of a spiritual power), and in some cases, the voices accompany multiple streams of thought that the individual has no control over. The individual might also experience sudden impulses or strong emotions that they don't feel control or a sense of ownership over. People may also report that their bodies suddenly feel different (like that of a small child or someone huge and muscular) or that they experience a sudden change in attitudes or personal preferences before shifting back. 

Sometimes people with DID experience dissociative fugue in which they discover, for example, that they have traveled, but have no recollection of the experience. They vary in their awareness of their amnesia, and it is common for people with DID to minimize their amnestic symptoms, even when the lapses in memory are obvious and distressing to others. 

Causes:

Why some people develop DID is not entirely understood, but they frequently report having experienced severe physical and sexual abuse during childhood.

The disorder may first manifest at any age. Individuals with DID may have post-traumatic symptoms (nightmares, flashbacks, or startle responses) or post-traumatic stress disorder. Several studies suggest that DID is more common among close biological relatives of persons who also have the disorder than in the general population.

Once a rarely reported disorder, the diagnosis has grown more common—and controversial. Some experts contend that because DID patients are highly suggestible, their symptoms are at least partly iatrogenic—that is, prompted by their therapists' probing. Brain imaging studies, however, have corroborated identity transitions.

Treatment:

The primary treatment for DID is long-term psychotherapy with the goal of deconstructing the different personalities and integrating them into one. Other treatments include cognitive and creative therapies. Although there are no medications that specifically treat this disorder, antidepressants, anti-anxiety drugs, or tranquilizers may be prescribed to help control the psychological symptoms associated with it. With proper treatment, many people who are impaired by DID experience improvement in their ability to function in their work and personal lives. 

Life thoughts to improve Positivity and Balance

Sometimes We Just Have To Ignore Things So We Can Live Peacefully  

We have to ignore our insecurities.

We have to ignore the apocalyptic voices in our head that take us to hell instead of heaven. We have to ignore the way they frighten us and the way they belittle us to believe that we’re not good enough. We have to try to shove them aside when they attack us and we have to trust ourselves more even if we’re unsure of ourselves. We have to ignore our uncertainty and just keep moving.

We have to ignore the critics.

We have to ignore their opinions and their advice, we have to ignore their rules and their limitations and we have to ignore the toxic words they use to describe us and the poisonous arguments they feed us about why we shouldn’t do this or why we shouldn’t follow that. We have to ignore their experiences because it is not our own and we have to ignore their excuses because that’s how they justify living their lives and we need to find our own justifications.

We have to ignore those who left us behind.

We have to ignore their promises, the plans we made for the future, the secrets they shared with us and the way they looked at us. We have to ignore these enchanting moments because they’re no longer happening. They chose to take it all back and we have no other choice but to leave them behind too, because fighting for them might not bring them back and even if it did, they will run away again. We have to ignore those who didn’t appreciate us and we have to ignore the way they made us feel about ourselves.

We have to ignore some of our questions.

We have to ignore the dreadful questions we ask ourselves every night: ‘Why me? When will I be happy? What do I want? Why am I still here?’

Sometimes we have to ignore these tantalizing questions and trust that in time we will find the answers and that the answers may not always be what we wanted.

It’s hard to ignore the things that bother us but it’s also harder to live with all these burdens, they weigh us down if we pay too much attention to them.

We’re always faced with two choices; either we carry those burdens with us until they kill us or ignore them so we can live. 

Introducing Our Youth to the Big World

We are here to help your child empower themselves to grow positively and effectively going into adult life by introducing our youth to local businesses, creating work, keeping children off the street and teaching them responsibility. 

Please take the time to read quickly through this and share it with parents and businesses in Pretoria Northern areas. 

If you have a child or know of a child in need of work, here are the questions we will need per applicant to assist in helping our youth. This needs to be sent to Crystal on 063 215 9554. 

1.Name, Surname

2.Language fluent in

3.Send a motivating way to describe this childs most positive strengths he or she has that impacts others 

4. We need the ADULTS contact number - NOT the child - if there is a special case pls advise. 

5. Date or approx date of availability to START working. We plan on 01/01/2019 keeping in mind of school going teens / youth. 

6. Qualities this youth could add to a company. 

7. Finances - an idea of what this child needs to learn in a very young position helping at a company. This can be a financial amount or a barter for stuff like food, or accomodation, or both.

8. From the PARENTS - please tell us how you think this applicant / teen we are making an application for, can become an asset to a company? Use our images below for examples. 

We will communicate with you for more info if need be. 

Always be positive!

*Business Owners Group Link on Whatsapp*

By Crime Busters RSA -  Northern Pretoria 

*DO NOT JOIN THE LINK IF YOU ARE NOT A BUSINESS OWNER WHO WOULD BE INTERESTED IN OUR PROJECT* 

What is Our Project? 

We have many willing and able kids to help and guide in life. 

We need businesses that would be willing to give our kids a chance to get experience at a good company. 

The applicants are all between the age of 16 and 20 residing North of Pretoria. Most only available to start assisting 01/01/2020. These are teens and young adults who WANT to make a future for themselves. 

*STRICT RULES*

Once entering the group pls send your details as follows to 063 215 9554 - we will need the following : 

Business you represent

Business address

Your name and surname

Your position 

You have 1 day to send this info to admin. 

New members interested in joining can use this link : 

https://chat.whatsapp.com/CD36aTGWlUt5IRcPB10tbG

Members who do not comply to group rules, will immediately be removed. We have a common goal. Make our Community better by empowering our youth. 

This project is to help our local willing and able children / teens / youth to teach them responsibility, give them opportunity and guide them into their adult life by providing them with day to day employment which can maybe become a permanent position in time. 

Company owners will be allowed to ask questions regarding how we run things and may post ideas to generate more children into the project to help more businesses lighten the load. 

The Business Group will only be updated with an introduction photo that looks like this:

An example of what we send to a business

On this group you will see who is available, age, male or female and area of availability etc. 

You can request a childs full CV by just asking Admin privately.

An example of what we send to a business

An example of what we send to a business

We have Youth that are willing to move to a place of work depending on the circumstances of the employer and whether the youth member is responsible enough to relocate. 

An example of what we send to a business

Admin - Crystal

063 215 9554

Whatsapp or Telegram only

We do not charge for this service. 

If you would like to donate to our cause to grow our projects, please contact us on the above number. 

The Happiest People Are Those Who Realized That God Is Enough

Thought Catalogue... 

I envy these people.

I want their faith.

I want their strength.

I want their solid feet when their world is falling apart.

I want their forgiveness when their heart is breaking.

I want their pace in moving on when something isn’t meant to be.

I want their ease in letting go of what they can’t control.

I want their peace of mind, knowing that God is enough, knowing that God is writing their story, knowing that God has better things planned for them and knowing that loving God is the only love they really need in their lives.

They’re not concerned with worldly pleasures, with things that are temporary or people who decide not to love them anymore. They have learned that as long as you depend on people for your happiness, they’ll always disappoint you but as long as you depend on God, you’ll always be reassured, you’ll always be satisfied and you’ll always wake up every morning thankful for life, grateful for everything in it, even your hardships.

People find happiness when they find God.

People understand life, when they understand God.

People truly start living when they make God their guide, their leader and their voice.

I don’t know how they got there but I know that this is the ultimate truth, this is how you enjoy your life and this is how you stay calm, strong and patient in times of pain and distress. This is how you heal.

Because once you learn that God is enough, you’ll never have to question yourself, you’ll never have to doubt yourself or your decisions. You become whole again. You become complete.

Maybe we’re all confused, hurt and sad because we still don’t know how to talk to God. We still don’t get it. We still ask for things that are wrong for us. We still hope to change our destiny. We still think he’s being too hard on us. We still think he doesn’t know what makes us happy.

Maybe we all can’t trust each other because we still don’t know how to trust God.

The happiest people are those who trust God blindly, because that’s how they see the light. That’s how they walk through life steadily no matter how bumpy the road may be, because they know that they’re being looked out for. They know they’re being protected. They know they’re being loved by God and that’s enough. More than enough.